Hello. I agree with teel. You should stop these studies asap. Sounds like you are being polite and don't want to upset this lady but you need to put yourself first and not her feelings. She'll get over it, honestly. The majority of JW's are very caring people and believe they are doing Gods will. They will be kind to you and show an interest in your life and the more they do this the more you will feel obligated to continue the study. Stop now is my advice. I was in it for about 20yrs and know exactly how they work.
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Where do I start...
by KristiKay ini stumbeled across this site after doing some research about earthquakes and "end times".
i've had a jw comming to my home for quite a while just stopping by, and she finally convinced me to agree to a "bible study".
i was intoxicated at the time i agreed and i figured it would be better to have a set time for her visits rather then her just showing up at random times.
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Were you ever counseled in your talks by the school overseer for something stupid?
by life is to short inwhen i was a teenager i was always counseled because i have a speech impediment.
i have a real hard time with r's.
it was a nightmare giving talks.
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I remember giving talks from the platform as a child and my older brother would sit right in front of the platform directly in front of me because he did the sound. He would sit there pulling faces at me and I would giggle all the way through my talk but not once was I councelled for laughing.
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Funny Field Service Experiences
by I quit! ini just remember this one.
one time i was going door to door in a retirement community.
i'm not sure but i think ite was sponsored by the lutheran church.
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I must have been aged 9 or 10 on the ministry with my Dad. We got called in to a young guys house and I started complaining to my Dad that I was feeling a bit light headed and sick. There was an unfamiliar smell in the house and then when the guy went out to the kitchen to make us both a drink, my Dad whispered to me that he was feeling squiffy also. My Dad explained to the guy that I was feeling poorly so we had to leave. It was only recently (25 years later) that my Dad mentioned it to me and told me the guy must have been smoking a joint before we got there and thats what the smell was. I just wonder how my elder Dad knew what the smell was!
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I'm excited!
by MrFreeze ini'm excited people!
this week i will be absent from my first assembly ever!
i can't wait to sleep in and not sit out in the cold helping people park.
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It was on our way home from a district assembly that I told my mum I wanted out. What a relief that was.
Even after 17 years I still wake up on a Sat and Sun happy that I don't have to go the meeting or ministry. Its the best thing ever.
Enjoy yourself. Stay in your pyjamas and have a beer!
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My first time
by not bitter ini am new to this site.
i've been out of it for about 17 years.
i've never really looked back or felt nger about any of it.
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so how many of you still believe in God? Can I ask a question that personal?
I don't think I believe in anything anymore other than the goodwill and kindness of the wicked world
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My first time
by not bitter ini am new to this site.
i've been out of it for about 17 years.
i've never really looked back or felt nger about any of it.
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I would absolutely tell them if they asked or brought up the subject. They have never asked me why I left as far as I can remember so maybe they don't want to know.
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My first time
by not bitter ini am new to this site.
i've been out of it for about 17 years.
i've never really looked back or felt nger about any of it.
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I don't remember what age I was getting baptised but I think I was around 14 or 15 too. I only did it because my parents along with other in my cong used to comment on how wonderful it was that a girl in another cong was because she dedicated her life at 12 or 13 and she got so much praise, I thought if I do that I'd get praise and acceptance also. Its disgraceful when you think of it now. I would be so opposed to my daughter making any such decision in her life at such a young age. It wasn't only for that reason. I did believe it all but I was definitely pressured into it. I do find it hard to understand and accept the decision our parents made in keeping us out of everything. What every child wants and needs it so be like all the other kids but we were made to look like and feel like freaks. I wouldn't dream of doing that to my child.
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My first time
by not bitter ini am new to this site.
i've been out of it for about 17 years.
i've never really looked back or felt nger about any of it.
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I've been reading stuff on here for 3 solid days as I don't have much work on. All the terminology is coming back to me now and its so funny to hear now on the outside. I'd forgotten so much of it. None of my friends apart from 2 I think and my husbands family, know my history or background so I don't talk about it. So its great to finally be able to do it now. Why have I never been here before???
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My first time
by not bitter ini am new to this site.
i've been out of it for about 17 years.
i've never really looked back or felt nger about any of it.
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I was worried no one would be interested or reply. Thank you so much.
My folks have been in it for about 37 years and probably the last 10 years have become stronger and more involved. Although they still have a lot to do with the worldly family and are quite accepting of their lifestyles. Though they were extremely judgmental of me when I started to fall away. My mum stopped talking to me virtually and when she did was very rude and dismissive of me. Anyway, thats in the past and we get on very well now.
I've never joined any kind of forum before so this is all quite new to me. I look forward to chatting more to like minded folk
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My first time
by not bitter ini am new to this site.
i've been out of it for about 17 years.
i've never really looked back or felt nger about any of it.
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I am new to this site. I've been out of it for about 17 years. I've never really looked back or felt nger about any of it. In fact, I've looked back quite fondly at times. But I've got on with my life and have a career that I love, which is fortunate being as I have no formal qualifications. But since visiting this site a few days ago and reading some of the postings, I am full of anger and hurt. This is not because of what I have missed out on or was subjected to but I'm mad that my parents are still in it and going strong. I wish they could see it for what it is. At the same time, I wouldn't want their dreams shattered. They are both reaching 70 and believe in it whole heartedly. All their friends are in it and they have a good social life. Why point these things out to them now.
Whilst on this site I have laughed my head off and also felt a tad teary. I have so much I want to say but don't know where to start. This will do for now.
Does anyone else feel like me about having close family in it but not wanting to rock the boat?